My friend just paid over $600 (already discounted) for her fortune to be read, again. It's not the first time she goes to a fortune teller, and they all tell her almost the same story. Well, she could have just paid us half the cost, and we would have repeated her fortune to her again.
According to the fortune-teller(s), there are some setbacks in certain aspects of her life. What I don't understand is why know what lies ahead of you now when there is no remedy to it? Would that have made you more prepared for it? Or would you just expect it to happen without doing a single thing about it, surrendering yourself to your destiny as told by a stranger who makes a living out of telling fortunes? Or after knowing, would it be that simple to just let go & focus on the present? Would what you know in the future impact your decisions now? Wouldn't that be a pity to miss out on all the wonderful things in life that could happen?
Like many fengshui practitioners believe, how our lives turn out to be depend on 3 things:
- 33.3% on destiny the moment you were born
- 33.3% on fengshui elements
- 33.3% on your actions
What I'm trying to tell you, my friend, is that there is still hope that your life may turn out differently, based on the actions you make. Fortune-tellers can only tell you your destiny, they can't predict your actions. Hence, do not succumb to your destiny just as it is. Enjoy the present, make the right actions for your future. And, if there are certain setbacks in life, pick up & move one, knowing it's just a part of your history.
P/S: I hope you'll have a wonderful life and family ahead.
Sunday, March 28, 2010
Monday, March 8, 2010
Love Doesn't Hurt
Today is International Women's Day. I just completed watching Oprah's talkshow about women being abused by their partners/boyfriends. According to her, every 1 out of 3 girls are being abused. There was talk about Chris & Rihanna's relationship, 2 girls killed by their abusive partner, and 1 pregnant with his child but he's in prison for being abusive.
It's sad to hear these stories. It reminded me of a story my friend (Z) once told me. Z was an outgoing person with lots of friends. Soon after she 'paktoh' with this guy (W), she had to eliminate her guys friends, 'coz he doesn't like her talking to them. Throughout their relationship, they constantly argued, 'coz she was a strong-willed person and she doesn't like to be controlled. W got jealous easily and would do stupid things like running off to his ex-gf or threatening to slit his wrist with a knife or verbally abuse her till she had low self respect. Z had tried breaking-off with W, but as in most relationships, the girl would always forgive the guy & get back together. Z was stuck in the relationship for 1.5 years before she finally decided to call it quits for good, but he stalked her thereafter. She told me about this story years later. She didn't have the guts to tell anyone at that time 'coz she was ashamed. None of her friends knew about her situation coz W looked like the perfect boyfriend. After it was over, she realised that she wasn't even in love with him. She was young, and he happens to be attractive and interesting. Anyway, I'm glad Z got out and there was no physical abuse involved.
There was another friend (K) who was physically abused by her husband. He was the perfect gentleman when they were dating. Everything changed after they got married. I don't know much about her story, but I knew there was once when he threw her against the wall. K is a pretty and sweet person. I'm glad that phase of her life is over now and she is happily married to her current husband who adores her.
But to those who are in an abusive relationship, here are some warning signs (extracted from loveisnotabuse.com).
It's sad to hear these stories. It reminded me of a story my friend (Z) once told me. Z was an outgoing person with lots of friends. Soon after she 'paktoh' with this guy (W), she had to eliminate her guys friends, 'coz he doesn't like her talking to them. Throughout their relationship, they constantly argued, 'coz she was a strong-willed person and she doesn't like to be controlled. W got jealous easily and would do stupid things like running off to his ex-gf or threatening to slit his wrist with a knife or verbally abuse her till she had low self respect. Z had tried breaking-off with W, but as in most relationships, the girl would always forgive the guy & get back together. Z was stuck in the relationship for 1.5 years before she finally decided to call it quits for good, but he stalked her thereafter. She told me about this story years later. She didn't have the guts to tell anyone at that time 'coz she was ashamed. None of her friends knew about her situation coz W looked like the perfect boyfriend. After it was over, she realised that she wasn't even in love with him. She was young, and he happens to be attractive and interesting. Anyway, I'm glad Z got out and there was no physical abuse involved.
There was another friend (K) who was physically abused by her husband. He was the perfect gentleman when they were dating. Everything changed after they got married. I don't know much about her story, but I knew there was once when he threw her against the wall. K is a pretty and sweet person. I'm glad that phase of her life is over now and she is happily married to her current husband who adores her.
But to those who are in an abusive relationship, here are some warning signs (extracted from loveisnotabuse.com).
- calls you names and puts you down in front of others
- acts extremely jealous
- controls your behaviour, checking up constantly, & demanding to know who you've been with
- abusive for not answering his phone / replying his SMS on time
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